"Tantra" ft. Matthew Shur - Video

Tantra isn’t woo—it’s a toolkit. In this episode, I sit down with intimacy coordinator/sex coach Matthew Shur (Himeros) to talk about how breath, sound, movement, touch, and clear intentions can turn sex from performative to connected—on set and at home. We get into what an intimacy coordinator actually does, why slowing down reads hotter on camera, consent that builds arousal, and how play and laughter crack rigid scripts wide open. Matthew shares the retreat that changed his life, the workshops he runs for performers, why “agency first” makes better porn, and simple practices you can try tonight (yes, including breathwork and the PC-muscle path to non-ejaculatory orgasms). If “tantra” sounds intimidating, this one grounds it in the nuts-and-bolts: practical, queer, embodied.

Listen in, take a breath, and let Tantra do what it does best—bring you back into your body.