Desire, Discovery, & Deconstruction - Video

FCK YA! Sex Positive is a guest on this weeks episode of @The_Wednesday_Waffle with Madison and Crystal! The discussion ranges from everyday life updates to deeper exploration of communication, consent, and how people can safely explore desires, boundaries, and identity.

We talk about the story behind developing "Untied", a guided workbook designed to help individuals and partners reflect on what they want, name their boundaries, and start conversations that often feel difficult or taboo. We talk about purity culture, stigma, and sexuality, and why inclusive, consent centered tools matter. We also get into some more practical topics such as how to bring up a kink with a partner, how to avoid pressure based conversations, and how to build safety when exploring heavier themes or role play. Aftercare, self reflection, and ongoing check ins are emphasized as part of healthy sexual communication.

This was such a fun episode to record with Crystal and Madison! Hopefully you enjoy the blend of humor, vulnerability, and pick up some real world tools for anyone trying to better understand themselves, their partners, and the role of consent and communication in intimate life.
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Chapters

00:00 Intro and Meet FCK YA!
02:00 Weekly Updates, Activism, and AI Frustrations
10:30 Mental Health, Work, and Personal Check-Ins
17:15 The Workbook, Inclusion, and Disability in Sexuality
30:15 Community Building Beyond Social Media
35:00 Purity Culture and Unlearning Shame
39:00 How to Bring Up Kinks and Have Hard Conversations
45:00 Safewords, CNC, and Aftercare Explained
50:00 Ex-Mormon Tales and Belief Deconstruction
01:00:47 Fantasy, Porn, Cheating, and Boundaries
01:09:00 Kink Shaming, Dom/Sub Dynamics, and Choking Safety
01:16:19 Edge Play, Risk, and Learning from Experience
01:19:58 Threesomes, Unicorns, and Sexuality
01:22:19 Desert Island Questions
01:28:01 Wrap Up and Outro

#intimacy #consentculture #consentmatters #shame
#healthycommunication #stigmafree
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I’m creating videos around sexuality, kink, mental health, body image, and the messy process of unlearning shame. Everything here is made with love, curiosity, and a lot of late-night overthinking.

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